Psycological problem that I would like fixed!!!!!?

Okay, so I had a friend a long time ago. He started drinking one night and I was his designated driver. He pulled a gun on me and demanded to drive my car(without me running away) on the way to his house. In fear, I say quietly in the pengers side and let him drive. I tried to jump out of the car many times because he was driving through red lights at about 90mph. I was scared out of my mind and eventually got beat with the gun and wrecked and totalled my car. Luckily my face was not broke. Later in life, a boyfriend of mine was taking me home and we got into an argument because he thought that I was cheating on him ( i wasn't) and he began to get hysterical and was driving like a maniac. He side swiped a car and ran many red lights too. Scared out of my mind again I jumped from the car after many attempts. I watched him plow into a pole and total the car seconds after that. Similar events happened with a different ex as well. Even though I am married to a great man now and this is all in the past I am still deathly afraid to ride in the car with anyone! This has to be why. Even with my 70 year old father driving 30mph I freak out and can hardly breath without having an anxiety attack. So, anyone ever overcame a fear that can help me here or know how to?